Transgender People Reveal the Biggest ‘Culture Shocks’ After Transitioning

Thousands of users have flocked to a viral internet forum to share their biggest “culture shocks” after going through gender transitions.

The original poster (OP), known as u/TyDye386, posed the viral question in Reddit’s popular “Ask Reddit” thread where it received over 6,000 upvotes and 4,300 comments. The job can be found here.

Many users said their social interactions changed after transitioning, while others said they needed time to get used to the lack of pockets in women’s clothing.

transgender americans

According to data analyzed by Pew Research Centeran estimated 5% of young American adults identify with a gender different from the sex they were assigned at birth.

Many users have mentioned that it takes time for them to get used to various clothes, especially how often women’s clothes don’t have pockets.
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More than four in 10 Americans say they know a transgender person, up from three in 10 Americans in 2017.

According to Pew Research, Americans under 30 are more likely than their older counterparts to identify as trans or non-binary.

What does transition mean?

The National Center for Transgender Equality defines a gender transition as: “the period during which a person begins to live according to their gender identity, rather than the gender they were meant to be at birth”.

It is important to recognize that gender transitions differ between individuals, with some choosing to change names, pronouns, appearance, and sometimes identification documents.

Others choose to undergo hormone therapy while others choose to undergo gender affirmation surgery.

“No specific set of steps are needed to ‘complete’ a transition – it’s a matter of what’s right for each person,” the NCTE said. “All transgender people are entitled to the same dignity and respect, regardless of the legal or medical measures they have taken.”

The biggest culture shocks

Over 4,300 users commented on the post asking “Trans people from Reddit, what was the biggest ‘culture shock’ you noticed after transitioning into your gender?”

‘Bud’

“People weren’t kidding when they said Canadians used the word ‘bud’ a lot when talking to boys,” one user commented.

“One of the Girls”

“The number of women in my family, friends, and even female acquaintances who now confide in me every dark and deep detail of their lives, or who simply talk openly about every bodily function,” another user commented. “I became ‘one of the girls’ long before I was comfortable with it.”

Security

“As an almost completely transitioning trans woman, it’s that people are *much* more concerned about my safety as a woman than they ever were as a man,” another wrote. .

“I am MtF [Male to Female] and even if I knew it, the amount of sexism, harassment and sexual assault is shocking,” another commented. “Logically, I knew it had happened. I had people who told me everything before. But once I started to pass for a woman, holy shit. Sexual comments happen all the time, even just sitting at a red light in my car people screamed through my window some sexual shit. More than one time!”

Confusion

“I never adjusted my voice after the transition, so my voice tends to confuse, and yet, rarely a problem,” one user commented.

Men’s toilet

“Men’s restrooms are weird slits in the fabric of the universe where social norms no longer make sense. Don’t look at anyone. Don’t talk to anyone,” another commented.

Women’s clothing

“The lack of pockets,” wrote one user.

“Welcome to the sad reality of women’s clothing,” another commenter replied.

Mental Health

“As a ‘transient’ man almost entirely transitioning, I was told to suck my mental issues MUCH more (and by that I mean even more than a lot) than when I looked like a woman,” commented one user.

Anonymity… and pockets

“Man here. All of a sudden nobody cares about me, I feel completely anonymous. No one comments about me or double takes or smiles or anything. I’ll get a nod , but that’s all.”

“Welcome as a man. We have jackets,” one user replied.

“Most importantly, we have pockets,” added another.

Newsweek contacted u/TyDye386 for comment.

LGBTQIA+ in the news

Earlier this year, a woman criticized Delta Airlines for not offering a non-binary option during the booking process.

A Delta Airlines spokesperson said Newsweek they are working on resolving this issue and have confirmed that a non-binary option will be available through their system this year.

Recently, an anonymous individual went viral on Reddit after revealing that they learned that their genitals had been removed after birth.

Another Redditor has gone viral after getting support from commenters asking about his gym crush, even though he always thought he was straight.

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